Marie and I are doing a joint study through the tag-team dynamo of Exemplary Husband / Excellent Wife at Buck Run. Because of this, I perused my little section of marriage books again. I found that this little book was missing from the shelves. It doesn’t surprise me. I’ve bought Reforming Marriage about eight times in the life of my ministry. It just always seems to get given away. Mostly because I love strong marriages, but partly because $10 seems like such a small investment in the lives of my brothers and sisters in Christ.
Simply put, it is one of the best marriage books I’ve ever read. I love it and highly recommend it to those looking for a strong, theologically sound, no-nonsense book on what the Lord says about marriage. If you have a spouse or may acquire one sometime in the future, you should eat this book. Absolute Gold!
Here are the first few paragraphs:
How would you describe the spiritual aroma of your home? When visitors arrive, before virtually anything is said or done, what is one of the first things they notice about your family? In many cases, it is the aroma. Do they feel as though a bad attitude crawled under your refrigerator and died? Or do they think someone has been baking spiritual bread in the kitchen all afternoon?
Perhaps the one living in the home is not in the best position to answer this question. Aromas are the sorts of things one gets used to. The residents usually do not notice those things that immediately strike a visitor. So if there is an offensive aroma in the home, it can sometimes be difficult problem to solve. No easy formula of resolution is available. Nevertheless, the Bible does teach on the subject. The text noted above (Eph. 5:2) says that when Christians walk in love they are imitating Christ, and the sacrifice of Christ is a pleasant aroma to God. Similarly, a Christ-like home atmosphere produces this sort of aroma before God and consequently before man.
In other words, keeping God’s law with a whole heart (which is really what love is) is not only seen in overt acts of obedience. The collateral effect of obedience is the aroma of love. This aroma is out of reach for those who have a hypocritical desire to be known by others as a keeper of God’s law. Many can fake an attempt at keeping God’s standards in some external way. What we cannot fake is the resulting, distinctive aroma of pleasure to God.